🚩 The Biggest Text Red Flags — And How Pare Prevents Them

If you’ve ever felt that uneasy “something’s off” feeling while texting someone new, you’re not alone. Online dating has made it easier than ever to connect — but also easier for scammers and bad actors to hide behind a screen.

At Pare, we believe trust shouldn’t start with detective work.

Here are some of the biggest texting red flags to watch out for (all based on real messages), and how we make sure you’ll never have to see them again.

1. “Sorry, I don’t share my real name.”

🧠 The red flag: Avoiding basic identity sharing is a classic early sign of deception. Scammers often keep things vague to avoid being verified — or to reuse fake profiles across platforms.

💡 How Pare prevents it:
Every member on Pare is ID-verified before they can message anyone. Real names. Real people. No exceptions. We don't let anyone hide behind their screens.

2. “My photos are a little old… from 2009.”

📸 The red flag: Outdated or overly filtered photos are often used to mislead.
If someone looks suspiciously different from one photo to the next — or refuses a recent one — proceed with caution.

💡 How Pare prevents it:
We use photo verification and AI-assisted profile screening to ensure everyone looks like who they say they are — today, not fifteen years ago.

3. “I’m dreaming about the day we finally get to meet.”

❤️ The red flag: Overly affectionate or “love bombing” messages early on are emotional manipulation tactics.
They’re designed to create fast trust before an eventual ask for money or personal info.

💡 How Pare prevents it:
Our systems track behavioural red flags (like repeated message patterns used in scams), and we verify user intent before matches are even introduced.

4. “My wallet was stolen on a work trip. Can I borrow $600?”

💸 The red flag: The infamous “emergency money” request — one of the most common forms of romance fraud.
Once you send it, they disappear.

💡 How Pare prevents it:
With background checks and money message monitoring, we stop scammers before they ever reach your inbox. We don't read your messages but our fraud/scam AI agents are there to step in if money ever gets brought up.

🛡️ How Pare Protects Your Peace (and Your Heart)

Dating should feel exciting — not like a risk assessment.
That’s why Pare verifies identity, screens for fraud, and reviews suspicious patterns before anyone connects.

✅ ID & background verification
✅ AI screening for scam patterns
✅ Human review of suspicious activity
✅ Real people, real connections

Because love shouldn’t start with doubt.
We screen, verify, and protect your peace — and your heart. ❤️

Join the beta:
If you’ve been waiting to see what dating without ghosting, scammers, or endless chatting feels like — this is your chance.

👉 Email hello@paredating.com or visit paredating.com for early access.